Long distance marriage tips

I feel sad to be here without Jbird.  We are experiencing lovely late summer weather, reconnecting with friends and family, and enjoying the beauty of New Zealand.  Meanwhile, Jbird is going to school every day and experiencing some extreme cold temperatures that has even forced the city of Indianapolis (an hour north of Bloomington) to close for a day.  Every time we talk he has his jacket and hat on.  He told me that I have left him so much food, he may never need to go to the supermarket while we're away.  We'll see.

Though we were generally able to sleep at night time and stay awake during the day, BabyBird experienced her own form of jet-lag induced disorientation. She was very clingy, would wake up during the night for feeds, and was generally not the little girl I know and love.  It was hard for the grandparents who all want to shower her in cuddles as she was definitely a mummy's girl for a few days.  In a different world, I was her constant.  She seems to be settling down now and allows others to pick her up again, even exploring around the house without me.  What a relief.

As for missing Jbird, I have compiled a few tips after trying to connect with him long distance.

1. Skype every day.  

2. Don't skype non-stop - it becomes boring.  

3. During your conversation make sure to ask about the other person.  Let them share with you the ups and downs of their life.

4. Watch short videos together.  We watched this one this morning.  It was hilarious.  Make sure you start the video at the same time.

5. Have regular dance-offs.  We were supposed to dance to two songs but we chose the same song! (awww, mushy mushy).  Really go through with it, you will find the dancing exhilarating.

6. Check your online calendar to see what the other person is up to that day. This will help you know why they might seem absent and give you fuel for conversation when you do talk later.

7. Think of them during the day.  This has led to me sending some kiwi treats back across the waters with a friend who stayed with us for a few days and lives in Bloomington.  Jbird is really excited.

8. If you don't manage to catch each other online, make sure to email a sweet note or post a hello on their fb page.  

And that's it so far.  One week down, four to go.